Ahmad Bhai
Well-Known Member
About a month ago i stumbled upon
Quiet: The power of introverts in a world that can't stop talking: Amazon.co.uk: Susan Cain: Books
in Smiths and for some reason bought it.
This is Susan Cain's TED talk.
Susan Cain: The power of introverts | Video on TED.com
...
Pretty much describes me as a person and why i have always found "social interaction" apprehensive.
Having been brought up on a diet of Benny Hill, Frankie Howard, Carry On ...
i would have thought i would be fine, yet no its all a front from me to fit in, to be "social".
This is the main reason i took a break from this forum. And still am uneasy. I get burnt out having to be this persona.
As although this is the only place in a long while i have been my schoolboy, and the only place i have shared so many of my personal photos, and i like encouraging towards everyone else's photos, it is the "social interaction" element of this and most other forums that makes me apprehensive, and why i find it difficult to be out and about in the work place, "work do's" and "social" places.
Often i feel many others are having to perpetuate this extrovert, matey, "social" persona even though they are naturally introverted quiet. It is a kind of defensive reaction to "social" pressure .. a social pressure which is perpetuated by "wearing hats".
I quite understand why an introverted quiet soul as George Best drank so much just so he could cope with being in public, as i too am fine once i have downed a bottle or two. Having said there's always space for sillyness, if i couldn't have a balance meal of silly, naughty, fun, quiet, introspection, reflection, i would feel down, and the only persons i can be this way with are my two little nieces and my SWMBO's two little kids.
Quiet: The power of introverts in a world that can't stop talking: Amazon.co.uk: Susan Cain: Books
in Smiths and for some reason bought it.
This is Susan Cain's TED talk.
Susan Cain: The power of introverts | Video on TED.com
...
Pretty much describes me as a person and why i have always found "social interaction" apprehensive.
Having been brought up on a diet of Benny Hill, Frankie Howard, Carry On ...
i would have thought i would be fine, yet no its all a front from me to fit in, to be "social".
This is the main reason i took a break from this forum. And still am uneasy. I get burnt out having to be this persona.
As although this is the only place in a long while i have been my schoolboy, and the only place i have shared so many of my personal photos, and i like encouraging towards everyone else's photos, it is the "social interaction" element of this and most other forums that makes me apprehensive, and why i find it difficult to be out and about in the work place, "work do's" and "social" places.
Often i feel many others are having to perpetuate this extrovert, matey, "social" persona even though they are naturally introverted quiet. It is a kind of defensive reaction to "social" pressure .. a social pressure which is perpetuated by "wearing hats".
I quite understand why an introverted quiet soul as George Best drank so much just so he could cope with being in public, as i too am fine once i have downed a bottle or two. Having said there's always space for sillyness, if i couldn't have a balance meal of silly, naughty, fun, quiet, introspection, reflection, i would feel down, and the only persons i can be this way with are my two little nieces and my SWMBO's two little kids.
